The Misconceptions Of Introversion

Introversion is usually incorrectly associated with being socially inept and extremely shy. This is a complete misconception as introverts have the ability to be socially engaging and confident. However, they are more likely to tire of social interactions and fold inwards at regular intervals.

Introverts tend to be more concerned with their inner world and internal reflections. They commonly find inspiration from within their minds, rather than on interactions with other people — which is one of the characteristics of an extravert, among many others. After spending time with a large group of people or attending a relatively huge party, introverts often yearn for time alone to recharge themselves.

This is due to the makeup of the introvert’s brain. As mentioned in Susan Cain’s book (“Quiet: The Power Of Introverts In A World That Can’t Stop Talking”), introverts generally need less social stimulation than extraverts due to their high sensitivity with regards to external stimulus (i.e. socialization). Introverts’ brains are focused on acetylcholine, while extraverts are focused more on dopamine and adrenaline, with introverts having more blood flow in their brain, using a longer pathway to process input.

This does not necessarily equate to introversion correlating with low social skills, but rather their internal meter for external stimulus not set too high. In other words, when an introvert is exposed to highly concentrated doses of external stimulus, their social need to engage with others is met quickly, thus the need to retreat quickly arises. The opposite is true for extraverts.

Due to preconceived notions society has that links success with extraversion, many introverts have expertly camouflaged themselves to fit into society’s expectations. Statistically, extraverts also outnumber introverts by¬†a ratio of 3-to-1. Despite these odds, introversion is a strength as individuals high in this tend to be more thoughtful and less brash when it comes to decision making, which is a huge advantage all on its own.

Some common characteristics of introverts are as follows:

  • Introspective
  • Reflective
  • High in intrapersonal intelligence
  • Thoughtful
  • Ideas can feel solid
  • More comfortable being alone
  • Quiet and reserved when among unfamiliar people or in larger groups
  • Prefers smaller groups over large, boisterous¬†ones
  • More sociable with people more familiar
  • There is a tendency to take longer reflecting and over-think situations, rather than moving quickly into action
  • Enjoys understanding minute details
  • Learns well through observing

All in all, the misconceptions on introversion are grounded purely on assumptions, as can be pointed out from what has been mentioned above. Shyness, which is also closely associated with introversion, is an altogether different matter that concerns itself with an individual’s behaviour when with others.

The difference between introversion and extraversion is ultimately about the tendencies of where individuals choose to focus their energies towards; inward or outward.



Body Language: Sitting Styles

Recently, I’ve been observing people and the way they act.¬†Specifically, I concentrated on the body language of sitting. I was curious how people thought when sitting in specific positions, so I researched about it.

The following is a compilation of the things that I’ve read.

Sitting Styles:

  • Leg Twist — the human version of Olive Oyl’s¬†confounding limb twists

This, when done by real humans, generally means a feeling of insecurity and nervousness.

The way we sit & what it means

  • Crossed Kicking — this is when the legs are crossed and are slightly making a kicking motion

The way we sit & what it means

This usually indicates boredom.

  • The Bare Crotch — this is when the legs are wide open

The way we sit & what it means

This indicates a feeling of arrogance and a¬†combative nature; it’s also seen as a sort of sexual posturing

  • Leg Cross — one leg is crossed neatly over the other

When this sitting position is accompanied by crossed arms, this basically means that the person has emotionally withdrawn from the conversation. In general, when people sit like this, they speak in shorter sentences and remember less details.

  • Figure Four — legs crossed as shown below, with one foot resting over the thigh of the other leg. This is supposedly very American

The way we sit & what it means

This usually indicates a feeling of confidence, superiority, and of being self-assured. It also indicates competitiveness and an argumentative attitude. Men who sit like this are supposedly dominant, relaxed. It is also associated with being youthful.

  • Figure Four Leg Clamp — a variation of the previous position, but with either one or both hands locking the position in place

This indicates tough-mindedness and stubbornness.

  • Wide Thigh Join — legs are wide apart, but the thighs are joined at the knee

The way we sit & what it means

This indicates nervousness.

  • Ankle Lock — legs are locked together at the ankle, but the knees are apart

The way we sit & what it means

This supposedly indicates apprehension and a defensive attitude. Women tend to minimize the space they occupy by sticking their legs closer together, while men take up more space, as shown above. However, both variants mean the same.

  • The Neutral — this is when both legs are grounded

The way we sit & what it means

It indicates neutrality, and it is seen as stable and focused.  One thing to note, however, is that this is more commonly seen in men, as women tend to sit in cross-legged positions, either due to their skirts or due to societal norms taught them.

  • Leg Stretch — one leg is crossed over the other leg, stretching out the leg muscles

crossing legs in sexy fashion.

This is usually used by women as a flirtatious gesture to draw some sort of attention.

Leg Movement & Positioning:

  • Usually, final decisions are made when both feet are firmly on the ground.
  • Locked ankles are a sign of self-restraint, hiding inner emotions.


This, to me, is a very fascinating topic, but I haven’t really covered everything there is to cover here. For more reading, check out the sources below, especially the first one; that’s quite in-depth.


Disclaimer: Of course, everything has to be taken in with a grain of salt as different circumstances need to be taken into consideration.



Body Language: Basics

Just to cover a simple basic in studying body language, the two types of posturing are described below.


  • Open posture

This is when the trunk of the body (which is the chest area mostly) is kept open and exposed, without any attempts to cover the mentioned area. This generally indicates friendliness, openness, and willingness.

  • Closed posture

This usually has a hunched over look, with the arms and legs kept crossed. This generally indicates a variation of either hostility, unfriendliness, or anxiety.

Well, basics have been covered. So…yeah…