Doodling The Bird

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When it comes to doodling, I almost always automatically go for a bird — or a variant of it, aesthetically speaking, as seen above (I don’t quite think there are any birds who look like that in reality, unless it bred with some dinosaur…).

And because of that, I became curious about the psychology of doodling. Regarding birds.

It turns out that doodling birds usually mean that their “artist” is feeling constricted and wants to fly free. But then, it all depends on the way the bird is drawn as well.

Anyhow, I’ve put up a link on bird doodle meanings down below, just in case.

http://doodlemeanings.com/2011/03/07/doodle-meanings-birds-reveal/

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Verbal Diarrhoea

Verbal diarrhoea.

Or as is the proper term in psychology, logorrhoea.

Defined by psychologists, it is when an individual becomes excessively wordy, with talk that is devoid of logical coherence. At times, it is when ideas from the mind just leak out randomly. Supposedly, its causes aren’t clearly understood, but somehow it has to do with the frontal lobe structure of the brain that is related to language.

Of course, it would make little sense if the brain structure causing logorrhoea were to be related with eye-hand coordination. But I digress.

Interjection aside, it is a great inconvenience to be afflicted by this malady, especially since verbally spouting out nonsensical phrases annoys most people one comes in contact with in life. Also, logorrhoea is known to be associated with the presence of some psychiatric disorders, some of which that were listed are aphasia, mania, and catatonic schizophrenia. It is also seen to reflect the presence of tachypsychia, which is when thoughts go through the mind in an accelerated fashion.

Think Sherlock Holmes, with Robert Downey Jr. playing the titular character — His character is endowed with tachypsychic abilities, as well as his arch-nemesis, Professor Moriarty, as shown in the video above.

Logorrhoea, mind you, is vastly different from tachyphemia, which is characterized by rapid speech that is difficult to understand due to poor syntax and the insertion of words or phrases that are unrelated to what needs to be communicated.

The majority’s opinions on people who are afflicted by logorrhoea vary and there’s numerous accounts and offhand comments about verbal diarrhoea out there that will help illuminate you on those opinions. But being someone who, on occasion — well, almost frequently actually, but I try, try, try to be careful and control it as much as possible for fear of being called schizophrenic or bipolar (which I have been called once) — says randomly bizarre comments that just pop into her head, it’s quite a revealing, tell-tale sign of nerves. Or rather, that’s how I perceive it, since my nervousness is always the activation key to my verbal diarrhoea.

“My verbal diarrhoea” — that sounds funny *giggles*

I recently said a random phrase that made absolutely no sense and I realized this immediately after the words left my mouth. I wanted to retract them so badly, but what’s said cannot be taken back. And that’s obviously horologically impossible. It was perfectly harmless, I suppose, but it was such a stupid thing to say that the person I said it to probably thought me completely ludicrous. It left me no choice but to quickly walk away and try not to be too embarrassed about it.

Well. Logorrhoea. It just happens sometimes. Hope I’m not schizophrenic. Although it would be cool to have tachypsychia.

Yes, I’m aware of my tendency to have “the diarrhoea of the mouth”.

 

Reference:
http://health.kioskea.net/faq/526-logorrhea
http://www.theredheadriter.com/2010/03/verbal-diarrhea/

People’s Need For Validation

“Does this look good on me?”

“Do I look fat?”

“Why does she hate me? What could I do to make her like me?”

All these questions tend to run through our minds or we voice them out to the people closest to us.

But why is this? Why do people have the need to be validated? When we make life choices — some as small as deciding whether to buy red Christian Louboutin pumps or comfy beige Toms — there is a tendency to consult others and concern ourselves with what others think of us or our decisions. But is this necessary?

Let’s explore this, shall we?

As social creatures, people tend to get together in groups. This is highly exemplified in many T.V. sitcoms (i.e. The Big Bang Theory, Friends, etc.). In the realm of social sciences, the proper term for this is The Social Group, which is generally defined as a group of two or more people who consistently interact with one another — in collective unity — due to a range of varying factors, some of which are similar interests, characteristics, values, social backgrounds, and familial ties. The individuals who belong in a group also acknowledge themselves to be a part of an identified group.

Social groups usually come in different shapes and sizes — the optimal size determined to be three, according to Turkish-American social psychologist Muzafer Sherif  — and can even include a whole society as one large social group.

Within a social group, there tends to be a common goal among the members, functioning roles taken up by each person in the group (recognized or not), established status relationships, and accepted norms.

Each of the characters on The Big Bang Theory plays a role in the whole group dynamic that makes them a memorable social group.

Validation then comes into play. Belonging in a group, there is a need to synchronize effectively so that the social group can benefit as a whole through social cohesion. To do so, there is a need to feel validated in what one does as this contributes to verifying our positive feelings regarding ourselves.

This can be quite detrimental as the line between needing approval from others and asking for opinions and suggestions objectively to make up one’s mind can become quite hazy. Becoming a slave to validation is a sign of low self-esteem and lack of a healthy ego.

Social networking sites, such as Facebook, unintentionally feeds off this need for validation, what with the existence of the “Like” button. People try to stack as many “Likes” as they can for their posts and unnecessarily worry when their posts do not get the amount of attention they need them to have — a phenomenon that has sprouted many a comedic spoofs all over the internet, mostly in the form of memes such as the one below.

Relying heavily on what people perceive of you and constantly seeking approval is definitely not healthy and needs remedying. The first step is to accept yourself as you are and realize that your decisions do not necessarily need the approval of everyone in your life (it certainly is not a life or death situation if someone were to disapprove of someone’s decisions. Melodrama not necessary.).

Sure, hearing other people’s perspectives is always highly recommended when making decisions — especially when a decision that needs to be made will affect others —  but basing decisions on what others think and want won’t help oneself. Considering others’ perspectives, yes, but not blindly following whatever they say for their approval.

Well, that really is quite enough, I think. I will now leave you with this meme.

Embrace yourself!

The Misconceptions Of Introversion

Introversion is usually incorrectly associated with being socially inept and extremely shy. This is a complete misconception as introverts have the ability to be socially engaging and confident. However, they are more likely to tire of social interactions and fold inwards at regular intervals.

Introverts tend to be more concerned with their inner world and internal reflections. They commonly find inspiration from within their minds, rather than on interactions with other people — which is one of the characteristics of an extravert, among many others. After spending time with a large group of people or attending a relatively huge party, introverts often yearn for time alone to recharge themselves.

This is due to the makeup of the introvert’s brain. As mentioned in Susan Cain’s book (“Quiet: The Power Of Introverts In A World That Can’t Stop Talking”), introverts generally need less social stimulation than extraverts due to their high sensitivity with regards to external stimulus (i.e. socialization). Introverts’ brains are focused on acetylcholine, while extraverts are focused more on dopamine and adrenaline, with introverts having more blood flow in their brain, using a longer pathway to process input.

This does not necessarily equate to introversion correlating with low social skills, but rather their internal meter for external stimulus not set too high. In other words, when an introvert is exposed to highly concentrated doses of external stimulus, their social need to engage with others is met quickly, thus the need to retreat quickly arises. The opposite is true for extraverts.

Due to preconceived notions society has that links success with extraversion, many introverts have expertly camouflaged themselves to fit into society’s expectations. Statistically, extraverts also outnumber introverts by a ratio of 3-to-1. Despite these odds, introversion is a strength as individuals high in this tend to be more thoughtful and less brash when it comes to decision making, which is a huge advantage all on its own.

Some common characteristics of introverts are as follows:

  • Introspective
  • Reflective
  • High in intrapersonal intelligence
  • Thoughtful
  • Ideas can feel solid
  • More comfortable being alone
  • Quiet and reserved when among unfamiliar people or in larger groups
  • Prefers smaller groups over large, boisterous ones
  • More sociable with people more familiar
  • There is a tendency to take longer reflecting and over-think situations, rather than moving quickly into action
  • Enjoys understanding minute details
  • Learns well through observing

All in all, the misconceptions on introversion are grounded purely on assumptions, as can be pointed out from what has been mentioned above. Shyness, which is also closely associated with introversion, is an altogether different matter that concerns itself with an individual’s behaviour when with others.

The difference between introversion and extraversion is ultimately about the tendencies of where individuals choose to focus their energies towards; inward or outward.

 

Sources:
http://introvertempowerment.blogspot.com/2013/02/introvert-and-extrovert-brains-are.html
http://psychology.about.com/od/trait-theories-personality/f/introversion.htm
http://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/extraversion-or-introversion.asp
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/07/29/introvert-myths_n_3569058.html
http://www.theinspiredmanifesto.com/2013_08_01_archive.html

Body Language: Sitting Styles

Recently, I’ve been observing people and the way they act. Specifically, I concentrated on the body language of sitting. I was curious how people thought when sitting in specific positions, so I researched about it.

The following is a compilation of the things that I’ve read.

Sitting Styles:

  • Leg Twist — the human version of Olive Oyl’s confounding limb twists

This, when done by real humans, generally means a feeling of insecurity and nervousness.

The way we sit & what it means

  • Crossed Kicking — this is when the legs are crossed and are slightly making a kicking motion

The way we sit & what it means

This usually indicates boredom.

  • The Bare Crotch — this is when the legs are wide open

The way we sit & what it means

This indicates a feeling of arrogance and a combative nature; it’s also seen as a sort of sexual posturing

  • Leg Cross — one leg is crossed neatly over the other

When this sitting position is accompanied by crossed arms, this basically means that the person has emotionally withdrawn from the conversation. In general, when people sit like this, they speak in shorter sentences and remember less details.

  • Figure Four — legs crossed as shown below, with one foot resting over the thigh of the other leg. This is supposedly very American

The way we sit & what it means

This usually indicates a feeling of confidence, superiority, and of being self-assured. It also indicates competitiveness and an argumentative attitude. Men who sit like this are supposedly dominant, relaxed. It is also associated with being youthful.

  • Figure Four Leg Clamp — a variation of the previous position, but with either one or both hands locking the position in place

This indicates tough-mindedness and stubbornness.

  • Wide Thigh Join — legs are wide apart, but the thighs are joined at the knee

The way we sit & what it means

This indicates nervousness.

  • Ankle Lock — legs are locked together at the ankle, but the knees are apart

The way we sit & what it means

This supposedly indicates apprehension and a defensive attitude. Women tend to minimize the space they occupy by sticking their legs closer together, while men take up more space, as shown above. However, both variants mean the same.

  • The Neutral — this is when both legs are grounded

The way we sit & what it means

It indicates neutrality, and it is seen as stable and focused.  One thing to note, however, is that this is more commonly seen in men, as women tend to sit in cross-legged positions, either due to their skirts or due to societal norms taught them.

  • Leg Stretch — one leg is crossed over the other leg, stretching out the leg muscles

crossing legs in sexy fashion.

This is usually used by women as a flirtatious gesture to draw some sort of attention.

Leg Movement & Positioning:

  • Usually, final decisions are made when both feet are firmly on the ground.
  • Locked ankles are a sign of self-restraint, hiding inner emotions.

 

This, to me, is a very fascinating topic, but I haven’t really covered everything there is to cover here. For more reading, check out the sources below, especially the first one; that’s quite in-depth.

 

Disclaimer: Of course, everything has to be taken in with a grain of salt as different circumstances need to be taken into consideration.

 

Sources:
http://westsidetoastmasters.com/resources/book_of_body_language/chap10.html
http://economictimes.indiatimes.com/features/sunday-magazine/the-way-we-sit-what-it-means/articleshow/12211700.cms
http://www.52insk.com/footnotes-to-slovak-culture/the-european-leg-cross/
http://www.study-body-language.com/sitting-positions.html#sthash.TnYG4800.dpbs
 

Body Language: Basics

Just to cover a simple basic in studying body language, the two types of posturing are described below.

Posture:

  • Open posture

This is when the trunk of the body (which is the chest area mostly) is kept open and exposed, without any attempts to cover the mentioned area. This generally indicates friendliness, openness, and willingness.

  • Closed posture

This usually has a hunched over look, with the arms and legs kept crossed. This generally indicates a variation of either hostility, unfriendliness, or anxiety.

Well, basics have been covered. So…yeah…